It’s December 23, 1974. A mother goes into labor and is rushed to the hospital by her husband. Her due date was in the vicinity of the first week of January. She was a bit nervous because she was a couple of weeks early. The mother is rushed into the delivery room and the father sat in the waiting room with the other nail-biting, expecting fathers. In those days Dads waited with everyone else in the waiting room.
The time comes to deliver the baby and out comes a crying baby girl with blonde hair. Delivery nurses hustle about taking care of the baby while the doctor tends to the mother. Suddenly, the doctor exclaims in a very surprised voice, “Nobody move! She’s still too fat! She’s having another baby”. A nurse continues to work on the first baby and seven minutes later the chaos erupts again as a second baby girl, this one with brown hair, is born. While baby #2 is being taken care of, a nurse goes to the waiting room door and holds up 2 fingers to the anxiously waiting father. Being 1974, he says, “Yeah Peace. But, how is my wife?” not realizing the nurse was signaling two babies, not the peace sign. You see, back then sonograms did not exist; if they did they were not in tiny town hospitals. This mom and dad were told they were to have one big baby boy the first week in January. Two days before Christmas they were surprised with twin girls! And, that’s the story of how I was brought into this fascinating world… I was surprise baby #2!
My twin sister and I also have a sister who is two and a half years older than us. Although we all live states away from each other and could not be more different from one sister to the next, we are blood; we are sisters. Even though at times it may not seem like it, we are best friends. The old saying says you can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your family. To me, family is the most important part of life. Every family has their issues no matter how polished they look from the outside. My sisters and I come from an incredibly large extended family. And, with that, comes issues. But, I would not change one bit about our family, especially my siblings. I did not pick my siblings, but I think God did a pretty darn good job at picking them for me. I believe there are five reasons why our siblings are our best friends… no matter how good or bad the relationship is.
- They will tell you to snap out of it when most others will definitely not. When life is not going your way and you continue to let it, your siblings will give you a kick in the butt with the big boot of reality you need to snap out of it. They do not want to see you struggle and will not allow you to wallow in self-pity. They do it because they love you.
- They will be brutally honest with you. “No, your shoes do not match your handbag.” “That tie with that shirt? No way, brother!” “Your breath stinks; have a TicTac.” “You have spinach in your teeth.” And, maybe the most brutal… “I’m concerned about your weight/health.” Your best friend would never let you walk around with bad fashion, bad breath, or something stuck in your teeth. Your best friend definitely cares for your health and well-being. They say all this because they love you.
- They have your back no matter what. When times are tough, when times are good, when people are being kind, when people are being unkind… your siblings have your back. If you and your sibling had unfriendly words in recent times and someone else is treating your sibling disrespectfully, you will jump in and have their back regardless. They do it because they love you.
- They accept you for being YOU even though you may not sometimes. It can be hard to look in the mirror and say to yourself, “Yes, this is who I am.” You may wish you had a different body type. You may wish you could be more of a morning person. You may wish you had an outgoing personality and not so introverted. You may be the person who had a hard time accepting your sexuality earlier in life. Your siblings accept all of this about you because they love you.
- They love you unconditionally. We all have things we wish we could change or do better. We have things in our lives that we are proud of. Life can be difficult, but it can also be absolutely amazing. Through it all our siblings are our best friends because they love us unconditionally.
I am proud of my siblings. We each have traits and abilities that make us unique. All three of us are so incredibly different. The one thing we all do have in common is we would turn the world inside out to help one another in times of need or trouble. We would do it because we love each other.
